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feminineappeal5Ladies, we’ve done it, this is the last chapter of Feminine Appeal!

My favorite thing about this book? Listening to God, opening my heart to hearing His whispers and allowing Him to etch these principals on my heart.

 My wish for you:

1~ May your character be transformed into a Titus 2 woman. May everything you do (Phil 2:14-16) make you “shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the Word of life”

2~ May you delight in loving your husbands; with a deep, phileo kind of love…and remember:

“He who grows in grace remembers that he is but dust, and he therefore does not expect his fellow Christians to be anything more. He overlooks ten thousand of their faults, because he knows his God overlooks twenty thousand in his own case. He does not expect perfection in the creature, and, therefore, he is not disappointed when he does not find it.” Charles Spurgeon

Remember, your husband was hand tailored, by God, just for you! Think on the good, the lovely, the beautiful things about your husband. May your love for your husband so fill up your reservoir that it spills out and overflows to your children, and all who know you.

3~ Pray for your children, love them, cherish them, shower them with well deserved praise. Remember, they are your heritage, your reward. Cultivate for them a tender love and kindness that will provide them with fertile soil in which to grow.

4~ May you be blessed with self control and discipline and may you remember that every step you take, your littles will walk behind you. We can not give our hearts to God and keep our bodies for ourselves.

5~ May you remember that God has designed our bodies to come together in our marriage bed as a gift, a blessing and a beautiful act that makes our bond stronger each time we are intimate. May your husband always be enraptured  with your love.

Prov. 5:19 “As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love”

6~ May you have a heart for your home and may it be a tapestry of beauty where one can’t help but think of God when they are there.

7~ I pray that you will cultivate a heart for kindness and gentleness. Isa 54:10 “For the mountains shall depart and the hills be moved; but My loving kindness shall not depart from you” May HIS loving kindness never depart from you and may you remember that in all of your dealings with others!

8~ May you be the kind of woman that stands up to the challenge to be the Godly, submissive, virtuous wife  that God calls you to be. I pray that He always reveal His heart for you and that He find favor with you with each day to pass.

My last prayer for you is that your neighbors will respect you, trouble neglect you and the angels protect you.

This book has quickly become one of my favorites, right up there with Elizabeth George’s A Woman After God’s Own Heart! I know that I will read it again. I also think that sharing it with you has made it that much more special; solidifying many of the points in my mind and heart. I have thoroughly enjoyed digging into scripture and researching; that has been a blessing to me. Thank you for sticking with me.  I hope my passion and love has shined through to each of you.

From my heart to yours, God Bless you,



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feminineappeal41 Peter 3:1-6

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful and pure conduct.  Do not let your adorning be external-the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold, or the putting on of clothing but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. (emphasis and bold mine)

Oh, how I love this passage!  For me having an unbelieving husband, it is the hope in Him, knowledge of a time where I will be blessed so deeply, with a husband who will walk by my side in Christ. A hope in a time where my husband will be subject to Christ, as I am to him. Cultivating a submissive heart, creates in me, a beauty that will shine out to John (to others too), and make me beautiful in a way that I hope will woo him to Christ’s love for him. Elizabeth George says this, “Our submission to our husband – whether or not he is a Christian, whether or not he is obeying God – preaches a much lovelier and more powerful sermon than our mouth ever could!”

See our submissive hearts towards our husbands, first begin with a submissive heart for Christ!  When we give Him our hearts, and seek what He desires in our marriages, then submission is an act of love – not a forcing in unwillingness!

The above passage also speaks again, into becoming beautiful in God’s eyes, thru a gentle, quiet and meek spirit….my heart’s desire.

Let God give you a renewed strength in being submissive in your marriage. My prayer is always that the Father guides me so that HIS love for my husband can shine through me!  Sometimes I need the added words of wisdom from my godly friends, so that I could give things to HIM and not rely on my own words to “convince” my husband – again, God can do a much more beautiful, lovelier job at transforming his heart than I can! He can do the same for you! He’s just waiting for you to invite Him…

Some days are more challenging to the submissive, godly wife, than others! We all know this. That is why we have each other to depend on for prayer, encouragement and love! It is a gift, a gift to ourselves, to our children, to our husbands and to all who see us, to cultivate within ourselves, a submissive heart. May God speak to you this week and may He reveal to you, areas in your life where you are a blessing to your sweet husband and to others. May HE reveal to you where you can minister to others with your soft & submissive heart. May you be able to use the gifts and talents God gave you, to be a helpmeet to your loved one!

From my heart to yours, with love,


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feminineappeal3The Beauty of (Godly) Submission

We are nearly done with Feminine Appeal. I hope it has touched your heart as it has mine.

When you hear the term “submissive wife”, what do you really hear? I hear words that speak of a woman who is beautiful in God’s eyes.  I hear strength, it takes amazing strength and faith to be a godly, submissive wife. I hear honor, it takes a wife who honors her Father and her husband and herself, to be the wife that is willing to listen to God’s whispering in her heart. I hear grace, it is a gracious woman who sees the privilege bestowed upon her by God’s love and the high calling to be a godly wife! The woman who is submissive and follows the leading of her husband is a beautiful example to her peers and a light shines in her that is bright, love filled and far reaching.  Being a submissive wife, takes an inner strength that is more than admirable, it is a noble virtue.

We not only have the opportunity to minister to our husbands but also to all who see us, everyday, in every way!  The lady at the grocery store, who works two jobs to bring in enough money to pay the bills. Every week she sees your light and wonders, “how can I get some of that for myself and my family?” We have the opportunity to minister to this lady as we watch our pennies and shop wisely with the money that our husband has earned working hard for his family. That is just the tip of the ministering iceberg – in what having a submissive heart can do!!

Perhaps your husband has never had the opportunity to lead his family the way God desires him to? Maybe you feel your husband is not up to the job of leading your family. Maybe your husband is not saved (like mine). The truth is, unless he is leading us into a sinful place, we are called to follow our husband and support him even if we feel it could be done a different, better way…we should speak our hearts and give our thoughts but ultimately it is our husband who is responsible to God for the final decision. We are to simply be his cornerstone after that, and lift these things in prayer.

Ladies, I can’t stress enough the power of prayer. When you are married, under God, you are covered by the covenant of marriage. Anything you pray, on behalf of your husband, is covered by the covenant and has a special power, as a praying wife.  Ladies, this is why we need to spend time in prayer, on behalf of our husbands, for specific things; his reputation, his work, his walk, his sexuality, his affection, him as a father, as a husband, pray for his wife, for his purpose, for his thoughts…I could go on and on. I pick something that I know he struggles with, and I often write out a prayer for him, I say it every time I think of him, I pray it in the morning and again in the evening. It seems overwhelming to pray for allllll of these things; but just take one at a time. Ask God to reveal to you, what to pray for your husband. Ask God to reveal to you how you can be a  better helper to him.

Being submissive does not mean we let go of ourselves,  it means we give more of ourselves to God and we grow into who we are in HIM. It doesn’t mean we are to be like doormats or to be selfless in every way; it means we are to put our energy into prayer concerning our husbands.  It means we are to grow in spirit, and faith and it is an opportunity to cultivate a heart and love for another; to show our children what it means to love God and to love our husbands. Being a submissive wife makes us beautiful from the inside, a beauty that is true and lasting in a way that our physical beauty will never be.

There is so much to this chapter and it’s definitely an area where God has spoken into my life. So I am going to sign off here for today and we’ll talk more about this next week.

From my heart to yours,


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This is an area I LOVE discussing because it’s one of my favorite things to do!  Nothing makes me happier than being able to love and encourage others!

We’re all busy right? We are Wife, Mom, Housekeeper, Book keeper, Executive Decision Maker ;), some of us are Teachers…the list goes on. There are lots of things we can do to just love others. Let’s take a look.

  • Write a card to let someone know they are thought of, everyone loves getting mail!
  • Take the time to visit someone. TIME is one of the most precious gifts you can give someone.
  • Write out a prayer and scripture and send it to someone. This is one of my favorite things to do. It always feels so special knowing that someone had a conversation with God, all about you.
  • Make a meal and take it to a new mom, a tired mom, a friend or an elderly person
  • Smile at someone you love. This can be so encouraging – we don’t smile enough 🙂
  • Just sit by the bedside of someone who is unwell. You don’t need to say anything, just be there. When I was a younger girl 😉 I was part of a program where I, and other young people, would go to the hospital and read to elderly. Such a simple thing…
  • Make a phone call to someone and let them know you are thinking of them.  Sometimes just that is enough to make someones day shine!
  • Listen with your heart and your eyes. 
  • Give someone a hug. Touch is a beautiful ministry!

These are a few ideas. I bet you could come up with a few of your own. It doesn’t take much to make someone feel special and we all need that. The first thing I tend to think when I feel down myself, is ‘how can I encourage someone else?’  This usually brings sunshine to my day too!

So get your creative juices flowing, and practice kindness.  It’s amazing what a little kindness can do in the heart of one; and how it grows.  When we show kindness to one, his heart is lifted and he shows kindness to another.

Blessings from my heart to yours, with love


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The Rewards of Kindness

 Whewwwy, did I find a lot of scripture pertaining to this chapter! I really enjoyed digging into the Word and researching this chapter’s contents!

 God is filled with loving kindness and it never fails! Joel 2:13, Nehemiah 9:17 God is slow to anger, abundant in loving kindness! Isaiah 54:10 “For the mountains shall depart and the hills be removed, but My loving kindness shall not depart from you”

 Prov. 19:22 What is desired in a man is kindness.

Kindness, well, it sounds easy enough. When things are going well, it is easy to be kind. But God asks more of us than that! We are to be kind always to all people! Well, I don’t know about you, but I sure can’t be that all the time, on my own! Gal. 5:22, 23But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control….If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. If you have given your heart and life to God then you have received the Holy Spirit as a helper to be able to put to use these gifts! We must pray diligently that God give to us, a heart that is loving, kind, good, gentle! Matt 15:18 What comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart. We have to make sure that our hearts are right, if we want what comes out of our mouths to be loving, kind and good. I can tell you right now that I need some heart work because sometimes, especially with my children, what comes out of my mouth – surely tells that my heart needs work! I have purposed to have (Prov. 31:26) the law of kindness on my tongue.

What is conflict? I LOVE the way she breaks this down in this chapter. What is the heart issue? Conflict, EVERY time, is a desire and expectation unfulfilled in us. A desire to be heard, appreciated, valued…Quote p 121 “When we are tempted to sinful anger, we must ask the Holy Spirit to open our spiritual eyes to perceive the sinfulness of our cravings.” James 4:6 God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble. He will help us cultivate a heart of kindness and resist sinful anger and bitterness.  If someone were to overhear you talking about your husband or children, what would they hear? Would they hear a wife/mother who is showering her husband and children with loving kindness and compliments? Sometimes, when things are good. What about when things aren’t good? That is when we need to do so ever more diligently! Though I try to have a quiet, meek spirit, I don’t always win that battle! When correction is needed, do so in love. Gal 6:1 says to restore in gentleness…with loving kindness.

Your neighbor just had a baby, you are rushing around and hurrying to get a meal to her, your own family suffers with no supper and you are now frustrated to get that basket over to her and get home!!! Hmm, well, here is a great example of kindness turned to bitterness. We are first to care for our families; our husbands, our children. Make the dinner in the morning when you are at your freshest, make TWO so your family is blessed also! but Gal 5:13 through love serve one another, 2 Cor. 9:7 God loves a cheerful giver, Luke 6:30Give to everyone who asks of you, vv 35But love your enemies, do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return, and your reward will be great. vv 38 Give and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. Prov 11:25 The generous soul will be made rich.

So, FIRST create an atmosphere of kindness in your home, with your sweet husband and your beautiful children. This is our first challenge. We can and should call on the Holy Spirit for guidance and strength here. Then we are to show kindness to all we encounter. Remember that we are to be a light to the world.  FIND opportunities to be kind, to bless someone. Do not grow weary, Gal 6:9, doing good, for in due season we shall reap, if we do not lose heart. Send a card, or make a phone call to let someone know you are thinking about them. Bake something special, create a meal and pray for someone. Quote p. 129 “No man can do me a truer kindness in this world than to pray for me.”  One of the best pieces of advice I have ever received is this: “Where ever you are, be all there.” 

There is so much to go over in this chapter, so many things I want to encourage you in; I don’t know where to start or stop. Friends, take heed here; Jesus loves us and is kind to us always and He calls us to do the same here on earth.

Sometimes we think we have to DO, when in fact, just our presence can be a blessing, a hug, an ear to listen. I deeply desire to be a good listener and encourager! Prov. 20:5 The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.Listen to people with your whole heart and seek to draw out of the deep waters and areas in one’s life where they need encouragement and kindness.

Lord Jesus, please create in me, in us all, a kind heart with an understanding that draws out the heart of others from the deep waters, and listens with a heart of love. Place us in situations where we can encourage and show kindness and put people in our lives that need to see the loving kindness of you Christ, so that we can minister to others.


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He has driven for days to reach his destination. It was pitch black outside, so black that it nearly swallowed him up! There was nothing in sight and he sipped black coffee from an insulated mug, just to stay awake. Then, in the distance, was a light, small, but a light indeed. He slowed as he came closer, to absorb some of that light  into his heart, which was weary from such long travels. What was happening in that little farm house? Were there children, loved and sleeping with God’s peacefulness, inside? Were the husband and wife sitting at the table, holding hands, sharing with one another, what their day had held? Or were there parents inside, drinking warm milk because they couldn’t sleep, waiting for their teenager to come home; keeping the light burning, to guide them? The warmth of that light made the man want to drive in there and see for himself. That light is what our homes should represent to others. A light of God’s love, to guide others in the darkness; a little piece of heaven!

1 Tim. 5:14 says “Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house…” We are to manage our home with a heart for God. Prov. 14:1 started off with “A wise woman builds her house.” but the second part is just as important, “But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.” There are 2 basic ways we can pull down our houses. This is a good reminder to me too! One is by working destruction. What does anger out of control do? It rips, tears, destroys; it causes us to break rules~often our own rules; it speaks, sometimes spews, words that destroy, kill, break and ruin! It is so easy to allow our emotions to consume us. I am ever reminded of my study of Esther, Elizabeth George says “Move from emotion into faith, and faith into action.” We are to speak words of kindness and praise.  Prov. 24:3,4 “Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established; By knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”  Prov. 16:24 “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.” Prov. 31:26 “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.” The second way to tear down your house is by idleness.  Just by NOT doing, we can pull down our homes. Too much time on the Internet, too much time on the phone, watching TV and so many other things that we discussed which rob our time with our children  in ch. 3, also thieve time we would be wise to use elsewhere. I have a friend who is so particular about her house being spotless that it robs her of spending time with and enjoying her children!  Oh, must I go on? This chapter is speaking right to my heart of hearts… Not that we can’t enjoy our time to ourselves; in fact that is really important and life giving (especially when our babes are little), but when we are idle in doing nothing, then nothing is often what we feel like doing.  Elizabeth George gave her kids 3×5 cards with tasks to complete, for her children so that as she dusted the house, they dusted their rooms. We ARE teaching our children how to be husbands/wives with every action, or INaction we do!!!!!   We need to keep ourselves educated with ideas of organization, cleaning, time management tips we gather from other wives/books/classes!

I am sorry, as usual, I get talking about something I am passionate about and I just can’t stop, I get so excited!!!!!! Hopefully you are still with me!

Making our home a beautiful sanctuary is one area that many wives struggle with.  We can pray that God gives us a heart for our homes. He never asks anything of us without giving us the ability to do it. Our homes should be a safe place for our husband, one he longs to return to from his day of work. They should be a tapestry of beauty for our children and they should be a place where peace flows.

Now I’m off to dive into my day. May you be blessed by these words. I am praying for you dear wives – may your homes be a beacon on a hilltop, a light that draws others.

From my heart to yours with love,


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The Honor of Working at Home

This is something that I am quite passionate about, all tied together with being the wife God desires. I really enjoyed digging into scripture and studying to bring this chapter to you.  Do you feel that working at home is an honor?

Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of being a wife and mother, it is all I have ever wanted! My mom was a home maker and did not work until I was well into my teens. What a sacrifice of beauty that was; what a ministry to her children and a blessing to her husband! In the world today, it is a gift, to even be ABLE to do that; with so many two income families in the world and the pressures to do just that! The world view certainly doesn’t encourage this.

P 113, 114 speaks of a man’s description of a home he visited. He said “It seemed to me a kind of Paradise that had wondered down, an enchanted oasis-home. This was a home that when you entered, you couldn’t help but think of God.” Doesn’t that create a beautiful picture in your mind and heart? Wouldn’t you like your home to be such a piece of heaven that people, when they entered, could not help but think of God?

Proverbs 14:1 reads, “Every wise woman builds her house.”  That is what I pray for, wisdom; wisdom which builds. Creating an atmosphere in your house is like using a thermostat to regulate the temperature in your home. YOU are the thermostat. When it gets too cold, cold hearts, cold words, cold feet, I am to warm with words of wisdom and love. When it gets too hot, hot words, hot tempers, hot emotions, I am to cool with words of peace and softness. I’ve been struggling in this area lately and this reminder is timely.  Prov. 15:1 “a soft answer turns away wrath.” James 3:18 “the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace”.  Prov. 12:25 “a good word makes a heart glad”. Prov. 15:13 “a merry heart makes a cheerful countenance”. Prov. 15:15 “he who is merry of heart has a continual feast” God, time in God’s Word, gives me the heart, wisdom and words that create a healthy, warm atmosphere in my home. And I know that when that atmosphere turns cold, my time with Him has not been where it should be!

Building a home that is a refuge and a tapestry of love and beauty is more of a ministry than we might even know!  Our lives go in seasons. Now, when you have littles at home, is the season for nurturing and guiding in love, those little hearts. We must remember to ask ourselves before taking on any new adventure, “will this help my husband and can I do this without sacrificing my family in any way?” Most importantly, we need to ask our husbands where his desires are in this area, for us, for our family…and seek God in all things.

There is SO much more to this chapter so it definitely deserves a part two!

Blessings from my heart to yours,


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